Why society still needs feminism

Comments (27)
  1. Proud Mom of Cate says:

    You Rock My Darlin’!
    I love you so much!

    1. Kate says:

      You should be proud. I just tweeted this and sent it in an email to my three sons and two daughters. It’s the most cogent, thoughtful, well written piece I’ve ever read on this topic. I read it aloud to one of my daughters today and we were laughing at the beginning and crying at the end. Brava.

  2. Beatrice Dohrn says:

    Great. Because nobody blinks an eye that women are again taking their husband’s last name when they get married. How is that beneath noticing?

    1. AGTMADCAT says:

      Why is that a problem? In order to form family units that share last names, someone has to change their last name. It’s up to each couple to decide who that should be – however the statistics end up, it’s not a “problem” unless people are being forced. And if one feels strongly enough about it that one would be *forced* by a selected partner, then that’s a marriage that shouldn’t happen.

      And what’s all this business about keys as weapons? I don’t follow that one at all.

  3. Helen Hardesty says:

    Very inspiring! I thank you for this!!!!

  4. Andrew Barden says:

    Really good piece — good for you. Jennifer Harvey blogged that it is “one of the most amazing pieces [she’s] read lately,” and I agree. I also agree with your mom — you rock.

  5. Gabrielle says:


  6. JeninCanada says:

    Well said, and thank you for saying it. And we have to keep saying it over and over. Feminism is for EVERYONE; men, women, trans*gender folks, the LGBQ community, everyone, because like you said, what part of EQUALITY isn’t for everyone?

  7. Alison Underwood says:


  8. Chivalry is dead says:

    This article is so much fail. I could literally write the same type of arguments and call it “why we need chauvinism.”

    People need to realize that just because the number of rapes increases when ice cream sales increase, doesn’t mean ice cream has anything to do with rape. I guess we should blame Dairy Queen…

    I see so much double standard in feminism.

  9. Nancy Mead says:

    This was an amazing essay. Thank you for writing it. I posted it on the Central Oregon Coast NOW (National Organization for Women) and it is going viral.

  10. Katy B. says:

    Thank you for speaking up! I how your words convince more young people how important feminism is in their lives.

  11. X says:

    I could not love this more than I do. Wonderful work, Caitlin. Well said.

  12. Carey Newman says:

    Well put. As a father of a beautiful 2.5 year old daughter who is filled with joy, humour and light, I can’t express the depth of my fear that someone could someday hurt her. Femenism is beyond important. I can see why your mother is proud.

  13. Lou says:

    Beautifully written.


    And a quick reply to Beatrice: Husbands name, father’s name, what’s the difference?

  14. Barrayaran says:


  15. Brittney says:

    You are seriously amazing.I want to post this on every corner of the earth.

  16. Srivi Kalyan says:

    Remarkable! Really loved it, the tone, the truth and the emotion! Fantastic and important!

  17. Lymie says:

    EXCELLENT!! THERE IS HOPE if there are people like you with courage and conviction. Thank you.

  18. Zachery says:

    If women are so paranoid at night have a boyfriend to walk with.

    The tattoo of Chris Brown isnt about violence. It is about one of the mexican holidays. Stop misrepresenting people. You show your intellectual dishonesty.

    Vawa is anti male crap. Look up Mandatory Arrest and Primary Aggressor laws. Also why not have it be the Violence against humanity act? Or are you showing your misandry by admitting women>men?

    Also if you are so concerned with women in congress then run for office yourself or hush.

    Need i continue?

  19. Terry Bequette says:

    Nice column, Cate. I hope more of your male peers read it and take it to heart. Feminism is for everybody.

  20. counsel dew says:

    I find it more about a lack of power or confidence-those without it feel a need to overpower or belittle others to feel better about themselves. Sad really…

    Perspective is also nice though… A guy you like winking at you might not be perceived the same as that strange, creepy guy you don’t like…

    Guys, most I know, don’t mind being whistled at because they take it as a compliment-regardless of the intent. I know girls (women, if ‘girls’ offends you) who feel the same. They all realize the thoughts of others means little…

    Feminism, etc isn’t required unless you think being human wouldn’t accomplish the same thing-or that boys (or men…) aren’t capable of rational thought either.

    Of course, I wouldn’t feel slighted if there were 6 female Justices on the bench either… I think men and women really don’t think that much differently-those books just wouldn’t sell.

    People’s opinion are based on their experiences and the perception of those experiences. However, I’m not sure how the Boy Scouts teaching appripriate behavior to solve issues (or any other solution) requires Feminism-or why that would be a bad thing….

  21. John says:

    Because we still need to make white males feel guilty for being born. That’s what I took away from this.

  22. Steffi says:

    Because older women are demeaned and belittled for daring to express their sexuality and instead of being called “pussies” or “botches” they “progress” to the status of “cougers.”